We are supposedly not meant to have emotions or feelings at work, but I’ve never been one for being able to leave my personality at the office door.

Add to that the need for people to communicate about work - projects, planing and workflow, etc. I have been in situations where I can quite clearly see that although communication is happening - it’s obviously not. Whether in one-on-one situations, in teams, or during meetings, what’s being said is simply that - words (empty at that). People are talking and people are listening but the communication is missing.
True communication, especially in the work environment, is about engaging one another; usually with some sort of outcome in mind.
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It is truly amazing how in this multi media age a sculpture can capture the simplicity and complexity of life and evoke profound reactions within you. I left the Tate Modern last Saturday inspired and in awe of how you can learn something about yourself from a sculpture. (more…)

Now there’s a name for a band “The Law of Requisite Variety”. Bands, awards… nominations and so few to choose from in reality.

Who can possibly resist the temptation - Ozzy Osbourne presenting live. You can almost smell the fear of the producers with their hand hovering over a big red cut off button…..

I occasionally have the same feeling presenting with Daryll, that is of course when he isn’t banging on about something in relation to NLP and his best friend, John Grinder. But you know, sometimes he isn’t far off the mark especially when it comes to choices in life.

There’s not much choice when you only have 4 or 5 nominations is there? But think about your life in general for a moment…. how many choices do you give yourself in your day to day life REALLY…….? What if these choices you make conciously are only the tip of the iceberg….. or the limited nominations presented to you?

What if you make a whole load of choices you aren’t even aware of…..? (more…)

I popped to my GP the other day and having sat there in the consultation (feeling about 7 years old as usual) came away asking myself “Are they treating the symptoms here, or the cause?”

There are so many things that we attempt to find out more about and change in our lives personally and professionally. we often turn to psychometrics like Myers Briggs or Firo-B.

I used OPP’s FIRO-B for years helping people understand their behavioural needs and it’s a really effective tool but I can still remember the feeling I got when someone told me there was more and you can go deeper a bit like loving a book and finding there’s a whole series… (more…)

One of the most common requests I recieve in coaching is, “I want to have more gravitas.” I’m sure we would all agree that it’s an empowering leadership behaviour, but what is it really?

If someone is sitting next to you right now with gravitas; how do you know? What are they doing? Can you describe that behaviour? (more…)

I wonder if you could imagine the benefits of increasing your reply rate on a marketing campaign by [say] 10%? Or, how much more impressed your Sales Director would be if you could generate ‘X’ extra leads from your website?

Milton Model linguistics are employed extensively in marketing and advertising; to disarm the rational mind and allow customers to begin to imagine why they ‘need’ a product. (more…)

I first met Richard Wiseman at a guest lecture series at the University of London where he revealed the hidden secrets of magic tricks. He performed a card trick that bemused everyone and left us wondering how on earth he did it. Seconds later, the same trick, and on asking us all to focus on his right-hand helped us realise the limitations of our visual system and the reason why we fall for card tricks over and over again.
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