I have been having a conversation with one of my colleagues about pattern detection and self-calibration. In simple terms - how do you know what’s going on with you?

Have you ever heard someone shout, “I AM NOT BEING UNREASONABLE!” when you can clearly see they are. The thing is, at the time, they genuinely think they are not. Our left brain is fantastic at telling us stories, and generally has no awareness of our behaviour or attitude, only the logical part of the argument.

So, even when you are trained to spot reactions in others, it can be difficult to notice them in yourself. The only way to check in on how you are behaving is to search for the feelings in your body. When you are stressed you will almost stop breathing and there will be tension somewhere. The more you become aware of the wealth of valuable messages your body provides, the closer you will get to what’s really going on for you.